Chapter Three (Learning to Communicate) – Questions for Husbands

1. Look up the verse below. Then evaluate your communication skills and the qualities mentioned in each verse.

Proverbs 18:2 – Swift in your listening

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Proverbs 10:19 – Prudent in your words

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Ephesians 4:29 – Edifying with your approach

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Proverbs 15:1 - Empathetic in your voice

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Proverbs 16:21 - Calming every issue

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Ephesians 4:25 – Honor the truth with your words

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2. Now if you are brave, have your wife read each verse and rate you as well.

3. Identify your biggest problem from above. Can you think of any solutions or ways to “turn a corner”? Jot them down.

4. Because learning to communicate really matters in your marriage, what one “little thing” will you do this week to more effectively communicate with your wife?

Chapter Three (Learning to Communicate) – Questions for Wives

1. Using the wording from your Bible, write out Proverbs 25:11.

2. How can you apply the wisdom from the following verses to your marriage this week?

Soft (Proverbs 15:1 and 25:15) –

Sweet (Proverbs 16:21) –

Suitable (Proverbs 16:24) –

Scant (Proverbs 10:19) –

Slow (James 1:19-20) –

3. What does each of these scriptures say about the effect a wife’s words can have on her husband?

Proverbs 19:13 –

Proverbs 21:9 –

Proverbs 21:19 –

Proverbs 27:15 –

4. Now evaluate your speech patters. Are any changes necessary? If so, what?

5. Read Matthew 5:29-30. In what ways will radical surgery improve your communication according to…

Proverbs 12:18 –

Proverbs 10:19 –

6. As you consider the seven disciplines below, note how you think each one would improve your communication with your husband.

Learning to pray –

Learning to say nothing –

Learning to wait –

Learning to make a list –

Learning to make an appointment –

Learning to write it out –

Learning to “take the blame” –

Circle the discipline above that you plan to work on this week.